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Blond supremacy

1/20/2023

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Just read "The Enduring, Invisible Power of Blond" by Tressie McMillan Cottom in the New York Times, and this reminded me of this teensy bit of research I did a few years back. (From the draft of the first chapter of that book I will never finish.)

"In the 1940s and 50s, Dr. Kenneth Clark published research about Black children’s self- esteem. Known informally as “The Doll Test”, his work showed that Black children internalized messages about racial inferiority to the extent that they found white baby dolls more attractive than brown ones. This research had a significant impact on our understanding of race and on the practice of school segregation. But it also helped establish the subtle power of culture in perpetuating the hierarchy of beauty that affects all girls and women: being fair is better than being dark, blue eyes are better than brown eyes, being blond is better than being brunette.
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Natural blondes account for a small proportion of Americans — 1 in 20 in 2019, and probably more in the 1950s, due to immigration patterns from dark-haired countries since the 1960s. There are fourteen girls in my fourth grade class photo, only three of them blonde (21%). Assuming on this thin evidence that the proportion sixty or seventy years ago was 20%, blonde girls were strangely over represented in the Sears catalog. Twenty-eight percent of the models in the 1-6x size range were blondes, and in the larger 7-14 range it was just over forty percent. Since many blond babies become brunettes, rather than the other way around, this raises an intriguing question. How early did we learn beauty standards, and how diffuse and subtle where those lessons?"

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What we know about gender and what we don't

2/16/2022

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It is list making time. I am trying to update my sense of where gender science is these days. Let me know if I have missed anything.
It would be a mistake to think that we have arrived at a perfect understanding of the relationship between nature and nurture, much less the mechanisms by which we acquire our identities. There are people who still believe that boys become homosexuals because they have a weak or absent father and a dominant mother. There are people who believe that trans women choose their identities because they want to infiltrate and excel in women’s sports or invade girls’ bathrooms. The fact is that the scientific understanding of human sexual identity and behavior is far from complete, and the popular understanding lags behind the science even more.

What gender scholars know with reasonable certainty: 
  • What we call “sex” is not completely biological. Even the way we label a person “male” or “female” is connected to cultural definitions of what determines sex. The queasiness and avoidance around intersex variations is powerful evidence of this cultural inclination.
  • Gender is not completely social or cultural; neuroscientists are pretty convinced that early childhood learning about gender patterns and expectations impacts brain development and cognition.
  • Neither sex nor gender is binary, but a continuum of characteristics and behaviors
  • Children learn the prevailing rules of gender before their first birthday, as they acquire language (Mama, Dada, she and he) and learn gendered patterns of color and decoration from their surroundings.
  • Gender identity is fairly stable in most children by the age of four. They know how they feel inside and how to label and express it. Even more significant, they know their gender is important.
  • Even when they have acquired this knowledge, it takes a few more years before a child fully internalizes their sense of self as a “boy” or “girl”. This is because they rarely believe that their sex (biologically speaking) is permanent until they are six or seven years old. This explains why a little girl may insist on only wearing dresses. She fears that wearing pants will make her a boy.
  • Shifts in how we talk about and express gender make it harder for everyone to learn the “rules''. Adults frequently complain about having to adjust to new standards; children just learning how their culture works might also find it hard to figure out changing patterns.
What gender scholars still don’t know:
  • How much of the variations in gender expression that we see in children are linked to biology (i.e., hormones, genetics).
  • How biological factors interact with social and cultural factors, especially in infancy and early childhood. 
We will never know the answers to these questions, because we can’t do controlled experiments on children. Gender studies can never prove causation, only correlation. And while the academics are pondering and positing, parents are conducting small-scale, uncontrolled experiments on their own children all the time. Their conclusions about “how gender works” then become part of the cultural mix. For this reason, as gender science has been evolving, there have been continuous changes in the way we raise our children, including how we dress them. Welcome to the gender fun house!

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..How the Light Gets in

5/8/2021

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There's a crack in everything,
That's how the light gets in

Leonard Cohen, "Anthem"
What a year, right? I don't know whether to laugh or cry when I read my last pre-pandemic post about my (no longer) current project. The good news: I have been busy doing other things, all good. Very few have been writing, much less book-related, but this crack in the world has let in quite a bit of light. 
I hate being so vague but here's where I am with the "age" book in the context of my life:
  • In my imagination, it has been metamorphosing. The final form is not yet clear.
  • There will be no footnotes.
  • There will be art, and I will create it.
  • Indiana University Press will be unlikely to be interested
  • I am fine with it not being a book from IU Press.
  • The next stage involves playing with words and images in ways that are new to me. This is very, very exciting!
Watch this space. I promise not to keep you in the dark.
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For today’s dads

6/21/2020

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I write about gender a little and think about gender a lot. Today my timeline is full of tributes to dads. There are dads of today’s parents and grandparents, some living and some passed on. My father was a complicated person and tried hard to be a good dad. The places where he fell short had more to do with him trying to live according to the rules of twentieth century manhood than anything else. Those rules cut him off emotionally from his children, a loss of all of us.

Today, I see more and more people around me of all genders who embrace parenting with their whole selves, and that is a beautiful thing.
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Learning to be white

6/14/2020

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     So, what's new? Oh, just the usual. Since my last post, we sold our house, moved to a retirement community just in time to shelter in place for three months, and then had to watch from our nice, safe apartment while people got sick, unemployment went to Depression levels, and  millions of people went into the streets to renew America's struggle to live up to the ideals in our Constitution. 

     It is a weird time to be alive, much less trying to write a book about "how I learned to be female, feminine, and white". That's the theme of Que sera, sera, in a nutshell, and if you thought that considering that intersection of identities in the spring of 2020 would be easy, let me explain why you're wrong.

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IMPORTANT UPDATE!

2/3/2020

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I know it's been quiet here for a long time. The good news is that all that quietness was because I was pulling together the proposal and sample chapters for submission to Indiana University Press, which has now approved the project!

So now it is all systems go, and I will be re-engaging with you on a much more frequent basis. If you have friends, relative, or former classmates who were born in 1949, or graduated from high school in 1967, please invite or add them to the group! The more the merrier.
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Girl dressing in the 1950s: POCKETS and hankie bags.

8/8/2019

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I have been doing a close content analysis of the kids’ clothes in Sears catalogs from the 1950s. Two elements of little girl dressing stand out in my memory as I look at these catalogs. First, the back closures. I was well into elementary school before I could completely dress myself, thanks to the standard design of school frocks: buttons in the back, with a self fabric sash, requiring my mother’s assistance every morning. Out of the 324 dresses in the 1950-1954 Sears catalogs, only 27 did not fasten in back. And then there are pockets. Less 15% of the 324 have pockets, all of them barely large enough for a child’s hand. A few do offer a matching “hankie bag” hanging from its belt loop. I am struggling to remember where I kept my handkerchief when I went to school with the sniffles.

The generous 3-inch hems, on the other hand, were awesome.
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Playing cowboy in the 1950s

7/31/2019

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Dress-up and play (Draft from the 50s chapter in my book)

“His and hers” sex roles went beyond clothing. Toys, games, books, sports (or lack thereof) and just about everything else in our surroundings in the 1950s were coded “male” or “female”. But actual little girls could — and did — cross that boundary.  We played with our brothers’ trains and joined the neighborhood gang for rounds of tag and Red Rover. And we played hours of cowboys and Indians in full regalia complete with toy six-shooters.
Dress-up play is probably as old as clothing itself. We have ample evidence of the joy that children take in borrowing adult hats, shoes, and other items, and experimenting with grown-up cosmetics. Parents’ Magazine suggested “simple dress-up clothes” for children from two to four years, and reassured parents that “cross-dressing at this age was not a cause for concern.  From four to eight years, their list includes more specific costumes based on occupations (fireman, nurse) and cowboy outfits. Of all of these, cowboy and western-styled clothing was far and away the most popular, and had been for a generation.
While a child could play the part just by adding a bandanna and wide-brimmed hat to any play clothes, ready-made cowboy suits, complete with hat, guns, and sometimes even a lariat, were the gold standard, at least in my neighborhood. These had been available from mail order companies like Sears and Montgomery Ward since the early twentieth century, along with military styles. The earliest ones were intended for boys, but girls’ versions - cowgirls and “Indian princesses” soon appeared as well. Movie cowboys like Tom Mix, Hopalong Cassidy, and Roy Rogers loaned their names and signatures to some of the “styles”, and the synergy of Saturday western matinees and dress-up play proved to be a powerful sales boost. Television only increased their influence. By 1951, fan clubs like Hopalong Cassidy’s Troopers and Roy Rogers Rider Club boasted memberships in the millions. Roy Rogers and his wife Dale Evans were the brand ambassadors for Sears western wear through the 1970s.
    While the prewar styles were designed for school-aged children, Baby Boom toddlers were included as well. There were also many more girls’ outfits, which, unlike earlier styles, offered trousers as well as skirts, and toy guns as well. (Oddly, two-gun holsters were more commonly found in boys’ outfits.) Like other play clothes, these western styles came in deep colors - red, brown, navy - never pastels.     
​      Which leads me to my story of The Best Christmas Ever, the year I got exactly what I asked for: a cowboy suit with a two-gun holster. I remember being asked more than once -though not by whom - “don’t you want a cowgirl outfit?”, and vehemently repeating “A COWBOY SUIT WITH A TWO-GUN HOLSTER”. Christmas Eve, when we usually got new winter pajamas, I got the vest and pants, in black cotton twill with white vinyl fringe. Christmas morning, under the tree and not wrapped (Santa-style, in my family), was the two-gun holster, complete with shiny six-shooters and extra caps. I can only imagine the parental discussion that produced this miracle, and wish I had asked them when I had the chance. But I got what I longed for, and the memory remains bright over sixty years later.
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What do I do with these thoughts?

6/3/2019

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Why, oh why did I think this book would be easy, much less fun? It was going to be a history of clothing for older women, Age Appropriate, that would trace the evolution of sensible shoes, Lane Bryant, and mother of the bride dressing. Instead it has turned until a story I want to tell yet don’t see clearly even as I burrow more and deeply into the primary source literature. I call it a generational sartorial autobiography: a life story told through the changing fashions of the last seventy years.

And today, sitting in the library, I found tears running down my face. I had written a bit, revised a bit, done a quick online search for a promising source, and studied the images I have already collected for the chapter on childhood. It wasn’t frustration that brought on the tears, it was the question I had been pushing away for the last several weeks. Was my mother happy being a woman? According to the advice literature I have been researching, she was bombarded with the message that it was her duty to raise me to love my sex and to embrace femininity. Failure meant a masculinized daughter destined for confusion and unhappiness.

She died twenty-two years ago this month, so I can’t ask her. Instead, I look at my childhood self and ask, “Was I happy to be a girl? Did I look forward to becoming a woman, a wife, a mother?” The honest answer is “not really”, but I want to reassure my mother that it was not her fault. ​.

Don’t get me wrong. I have no problem with being female. But fitting into the cultural idea of “girl” never suited me as a child, and as an adult, I rarely think of myself as a “woman”, except when ordering clothes or choosing a public restroom. Mostly I just go through my days and weeks being me; I am more aware of being white than female, and that’s not saying much. Deep inside, I truly believe that the “problem”, to the extent that there is one, is not me, or the way my mother raised me, but illfitting cultural and societal expectations.

​I am in in the midst of reading “Modern Woman: The Lost Sex” (1947), an anti-feminist bestseller that lays out the solution for “the woman problem” (which was considered by the authors to be at the root of every societal ill since the Industrial Revolution). Women must embrace their roles as mothers and homemakers, and society and government must support them in these roles. To say that it is infuriating is an understatement, but it is also sad. It is a tragedy that my mother’s generation was told that they should find complete fulfillment in being a wife and mother, and that to do otherwise was neurotic. And it shakes me to the core that my mother tried her best to instill those lessons in me, all the while not truly believing it was right. Because I don’t think she was happy being a “woman”, either.

So that’s where I am. And in the meantime there is the book I am trying to write. Not to be confused with the book that is trying to be written.
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Seventeen, Parent's Magazine, Girl Scout handbooks

4/6/2019

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It's been a very busy and productive couple of weeks for me, mostly spent in the university library. Right now the main effort is on the years of my girlhood -- specifically from 1949 to 1961 -- but the chronology is the only thing that is sharply focused. I have been reading children's etiquette books, Seventeen from 1961, and Parent's Magazine. ​I have also looked at Brownie and Intermediate Girl Scout handbooks from the 1950s. Here's a taste of what I found:
The most important thing I have learned so far is that “hegemony” is not singular; cultural forces push and pull at us from many directions, and take many forms. There was no single message about our sex and what was expected of us because of it. There were many. Nor are all influences external to ourselves. Even as children, we produce our own beliefs and mythologies, some connected to the stories told to us by our elders, some colored by media, or religion, or any of a myriad other influences. 
This is why it is so important to study the marketplace AND the market, the consumers AND what they consumed. This is why my own story was not enough, why I have to find others in my cohort, similar enough to me in age and race to understand the full complexity of this process.

If you are an American white woman born in 1949 or from the high school class of 1967, and willing to be interviewed for this project, send me a note through the "contact" link.

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